The Secret Behind Beaming Smile
In today’s world it is very common to see sullen faces all around us. We are sulking and people around us also being sullen. It affects our mood positively when we see a person smiling. We feel good. But we find it difficult to smile back. How to keep smiling when someone hauls bad words towards you.So how does Dr. Pashupati Nath does it? How does he keep a smile on his face even when faced with unfavourable situation or a person?We had a word with Dr. Pashupati Nath regarding the same. Here is an excerpt from the talk.In a conversation with him we asked him how he manages to do so in today’s world when people can’t smile normally and he keeps a very peaceful smile on his even in adverse situations. To that he said there is no big secret behind it. Whenever someone comes to you with bad words or bad mood, then all you have to do is give them a smile as a return gift and thank them. It all comes from the compassion one has towards other people. They are more in need of a smile. They are not in a bad mood because of you. They are personally going to through something themselves and they are dumping the garbage on you. Here he told a story of an angry young man and Buddha. One day the Buddha was going to a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and started insulting him, using all the rude words.Buddha did not get upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man. “Tell me one thing, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not accept your gift, then whom does the gift belong to?”The young man was taken aback by such an unexpected question. He said, “It would belong to me.”To this Buddha smiled and said, “That is correct. And this is exactly the same with your anger. If you get angry at me and I do not get insulted, then the anger falls back on you. Then you are the one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself”.I really loved this story. This is not just a story but a practical tool which we can apply in our everyday life. When someone is angry and rude then they must be suffering themselves. They must really be troubled with something if he just did that. We must pray to god for them, because he is obviously in great need. One should think that the words had nothing to do with you, although that person might be looking at you and addressing them to you. Don’t let the other person change your vibes.Everyday we might experience that people bring us gifts hidden in an ugly package with gems inside. And other times nicely packed, but inside, there are rotten apples. So, it all depends on you. The choice is always yours. Whether to accept it or not. He gave this knowledge to us in a very casual manner. But to me it was a big secret, a big change, a need of today’s world. So, keep smiling, keep spreading the happiness.AuthorBharvi Khatri